I tried to briefly discuss this on my snapchat story but I was looking all kinds of clapped and couldn’t articulate myself properly so I just gave up.
I had a phone conversation earlier with my girl Latisha and amidst the ranting and raving over one or two several hundred things, one thing stuck with me that made me think: Who is listening to you? Not Latisha I mean loool I was definitely listening to her but in general. Who can you have an educated, intellectual conversation with? Who can challenge you and turn everything you thought you knew on its head. Who can stimulate your mind, and provide you with knowledge and wisdom beyond your current capacity?
I feel like that’s why so many young adults need to talk these days because a lot of friendships (mainly acquaintances) are based on who is popping, who is attractive and who can provide the next foot in the doorway to opportunities and things in life. Opportunites are great and imperative to growth but what are the people providing them actually doing for you? There’s only so much 10/10 pussy and good connections can do..
It’s fair to say most of us have a handful of good friends, therefore, I am not suggesting that these people are failing in any way but it’s very common to look back and think “rah, when was the last time I REALLY spoke deeply about something? Is the world flat? Lemme ask B.o.B..” because please be real, we have different friends for different purposes and that’s what makes them unique. I know I’m lucky enough to have such good friends that they’ll holla at me if they suspect something is wrong, but sometimes we talk to our friends so often that we discuss the same things: people, work, love life etc. It’s the same pattern with the same people. And that’s ok but then you do realise that you haven’t exercised your brain in ways that it needs to be exercised. Again that’s not to say anyone in my circle isn’t providing me with what I need but it’s an acknowledgement that we become robots to ourselves and if you do find that you haven’t got solid people in your life, you’re going to be a sucker to the system I’m telling ya.
Maybe you’re around too many pretty girls with no substance or too many lads who only know how to process banter. Maybe you’re making friends with people based on what they can provide you with and not what they can do for you mentally. Maybe you haven’t exercised your own brain enough, therefore, you’re incapable of helping anyone else meaning you can’t help yourself. Whatever it is, I advise that you fix it. And that you talk. About anything and everything that crosses your mind. The weird, the wonderful and the scary. Watch documentaries. Read books. It’s ok to have an alternative perspective. It’s ok to be you. Just make sure you have enough people around you that will allow you to be you in your entirety.
And moral of this story is: Think DEEP! Talk DEEP. Be DEEP. Find DEEP people. They will help you win, I promise.